Poor Harry Truman. One of
the greats. Accomplished what he did while living with his mother in law for 33
years. A woman described as a mother in law from Hell.
Margaret
"Madge" Gates Wallace lived as a dowager. She was the top of the
social hierarchy in Independence, Missouri. Raised and lived in one of the
biggest homes. Her family had servants, lace curtains and Brussell carpets
on the floor.
Truman came from the
other side of the tracks. Literally. He was a farmer's son and a dirt farmer
himself till 33. He never graduated from college, could not seem to
hold a job down after his farming days were over. Failed as a haberdasher. Lost
a ton of money in a zinc mining operation that failed.
Bess was the well heeled
granddaughter of Independence's Flour King. As far as Madge was concerned, Bess
made a colossal social faux pas in marrying Truman.
Truman could not afford a
home for his wife Bess and daughter Margaret till he became a United States
Senator. Prior thereto, he lived in his mother in law Madge's home.
Madge thought Truman
would fail as a politician. Told him so repeatedly to his face. Questioned his
decisions while President. Even worse, she initially questioned his
qualifications to be President.
Madge hated Truman. Never
thought him good enough for her daughter. Even after he became
President. He was unworthy of Bess. Madge never let Truman forget the low
esteem in which she held him.
She never referred to her
son in law as Harry or son. Always, Mr. Truman. Even after he became
President.
She was a confirmed
anti-Semite. Gave Truman repeated hell for recognizing the new State of Israel.
When Truman ran against
Dewey in 1948, her opinion was that Dewey was the better man, that Dewey would
trounce Truman.
She was critical with
Truman firing General Douglas Mac Arthur. She thought MacArthur was
".....such a nice man." She also said she could not
".....imagine a captain from the National Guard telling off a West Point
general."
Madge's husband David
stepped into his bath tub one day, put a gun to his head and pulled the
trigger. Madge could never cope following the incident. She considered her
husband's suicide a scandal. She became a prisoner of shame. From that day
forward, she leaned heavily on Bess to take care of her. Truman assumed the
responsibility also upon his marriage to Bess.
Truman did a good job.
Especially since Madge's dislike for him was obvious. When he was elected to
the Senate, Madge came to Washington with the family. She and Margaret shared a
bedroom in the apartment. When Truman became President, Madge moved into the White House
where she had her own bedroom.
Madge died at
the age of 90 in her White House bedroom. She had lived with the President
and Bess for 33 years.
During his
Presidency, Truman visited Key West a total of 175 days covering eleven
separate trips. Not once did Madge join him. Fortunate for the President,
perhaps.
Some further Truman
background is in order.
Truman was raised and
lived his early adult years on a farm. Working as a farmer. The Truman family
moved to Independence when the President was 6. Independence in those days was
at the edge of the American frontier. Men carried knives and guns. Fistfights
common.
Truman's mother taught
him how to read starting at age 5. She sat him on her lap and
used the family Bible as a text book..
When Truman was courting
Bess, Bess' home was far different from his. Madge's family did not work with
their hands. They had no debt. They did not worry about insects. A constant concern at
the Truman farm home.
Truman was a good man.
Obviously. An excellent President. An excellent son in law. He put up with his
mother in law Madge's abuse each and every year he was courting or living as
man and wife with Bess.
I came across an article
listing history's six notorious mothers in law. Madge was one of them. Right
next to Catherine de Medici.
Historians suggest Truman
tolerated and took care of Madge out of respect for Bess. His love for her was
so great that he bore Madge's insults their entire relationship.